Historical incidents can intertwine and interfere with current difficulties. They are like the roots of a weed. They feed the upper branches and keep them vibrant and alive. You can chop off the top of the weed, but it grows back if you don’t get the root.
When you chop off the top of the weed psychologically it is called state change, for e.g. eating chocolate/drinking/… or talk about your problems with friends, etc. It helps temporarily.
Addressing the root is called trait change. That’s where we go back in time to find out what all is impacting us today to clear it out. Ever have the sense that your reaction is much bigger than the current issue calls for? We will address the root permanently… it doesn’t have to be every root in the garden. One at a time works.
Metaphor.. it works like a spiders web… cut the main string and it begins to fall apart even without working on every part of it.
Example 1: Someone is hit by a drunk driver and the car accident is no fault of their own. Yet they feel at fault. They know intellectually it isn’t their fault, but can’t stop the thoughts running on and on. We find out that it is related to feeling at fault at 5yrs old for an incident in which they had no control. When we cleared the negative belief and disturbance at age 5 then the feeling of fault with the current accident cleared quickly.
Example 2: A woman is raped and feels she is a bad person. Intellectually she understands she isn’t and her family and friends tell her she is a good person, loving, and kind. We float back in time to age 4yrs old when she was punished for something she didn’t do. We clear that up and the current belief “I’m bad” for the rape clears in processing.
Example 3: A man comes for therapy because he is struggling in his marriage. He feels angry a lot and finds him self withdrawing from his partner. We float back to find out that as a young boy his mother stopped talking to him for days when he made a mistake. Same as above.. we cleared the early and the later clears faster and easier.
Example 4: A family member dies and although not preventable he feels he should have been able to do something. He is stuck feeling overwhelmed and guilty. We find out it is connected to a time when he was 3 yrs old and his grandmother died whom he was close to. Nobody explained what happened, she just never came to see him again. We cleared the early memory (root) and a memory that felt even worse (he sees his pet run over at 10yrs old) and the current clears faster and easier.
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